CREATING A POSITIVE SCHOOL ATTITUDE
10 Timely Tips for School Success

by Phillip Mountrose

We all know how important it is for children to succeed in school. School is where they spend so much of their childhood; and the effects of school experiences can last a lifetime. Here, then, are some easy-to-use, practical tips that can make a difference for the kids in your life.

Remember that any time a kid experiences a positive shift in his or her school outlook, many other areas can also benefit. 

1. Concentrate on what the child likes about school. Likes can include recess, P.E., and other kids. Find ways to value whatever the child likes, even if it doesn’t fit into an academic category. Build on the positives. 

2. Listen carefully to what the child says about school. Even if the child views school negatively, you can be supportive by using your listening skills. Empathize and validate what the child says, even if you disagree. 
This promotes understanding and opens the door for further discussion. 

3. Match the child’s posture. If the child is sitting, you sit, too. If the child is standing, stand. Relating to the child’s body language will establish rapport. 

4. Don’t try to fix it. By handling the problem for the child, you keep the youngster from learning how to handle it. Be a resource, and, at times a guide, not a savior. 

5. Brainstorm with the child how school is important. Let the child, with your help, come up with ways school can help a person in life. Let the child do as much talking as possible. 

6. Help the child develop positive beliefs about school. Instead of the limiting belief that “school is hard,” suggest the positive belief, “I can improve”; or “I can get help.” 

7. Identify resources the child can use. To help the child’s “I can get help” belief, explore people, books, materials, computers that will assist learning. 

8. Share your experiences and outlook on school. Offer examples of your successes and failures in school. Be candid without going into the lecturing mode. Relate your experience to the child’s, being sensitive to the child’s strengths and weaknesses. 

9. Help the child schedule time for activities.  An organizer notebook can help the youngster with school subjects and assignments. At home, set a homework and bedtime schedule so the child has ample time to work, play, and rest. 

10. Find ways to appreciate the child, regardless of school performance. Acknowledge the child’s self-worth and uniqueness. School competence is only one aspect of life. And as you see the whole child, more of the youngster’s competence can be valued, perhaps in unrecognized and subtle ways.